THOU SHALT NOT JUDGE!!

I know it’s been a while since my last blog and I apologize to my loyal readers for the inconsistency. Many factors contribute to the little attention I’ve paid it in the last couple months. I’ve got plenty of ideas to write about, however, school, work, and friends make it a little difficult to write sometimes. It seems that lately, however, I can’t stop thinking about the words “judge” “to judge” “we judge” “I judge.”

I consider myself to have an open mind and accept things as they come. But at the same time, I know what ignorance is and along with that comes disrespect and demeaning someone for their own different beliefs. I always try not to judge anyone for the sake of not wanting anyone to judge me. But let’s face it, judging someone is almost like an instinct inside you. If you see something out of the norm, you are going to automatically judge the situation because you’re not used to it. Acting on that judgment is what disrespects and demeans what’s different from you. When someone acts negatively on a judgment, that person is automatically categorizing themselves better (or on a social class - higher class) than the person they are judging. True, people can have their opinions but, give them only when asked upon. There’s no point in maliciously telling something what you think if it’s going to hurt them.

I feel as though I’ve been around a lot and have experienced enough things in my life to not be judgmental towards anyone or anything. Yes, I did judge on first time experiences but it’s learning to accept things as they are that stops someone from falsely judging someone else. The thing that surprises me, however, is how judgmental a person can be going through life as similar as mine. One person can view and experience life just like me but still judge someone and or look down upon them because they are different people and have different beliefs. I have a few friends in my life who are quite judgmental and have spoken down upon the things that I wouldn’t normally care for. I won’t say who for the sake of their privacy, but it’s no one’s place and position to judge anyone else. When I hear these friends of mine complain and say hurtful things about how this or that person live their life, I leave it alone and am there to solely listen. I accept the fact that they are judgmental people. Nobody can change anyone unless they change for themselves.

I do want to mention one person who is so open-hearted that I hope I am as open-hearted as she is. I have a dear friend who I’ve known for so long (and again I won’t say who even though I wish I could) that is so sweet and caring towards everyone in her life. She’s been with me on a few occasions where I guess you could say things out of her norm have occurred and she not once judged whatsoever. It’s like her spirit has this kind of openness in her heart to accept people for who they are even if they are the complete opposite of her. I also find this kind of openness in a young family member of mine (won’t say who) and I’m glad that she is growing up to be so accepting of life around her because like I’ve said before “we are no one to judge.”

I think we sometimes spend too much time worrying about what people say, how people live, what people believe in, that it loses the focus on the most importing thing……yourself. To me, there is one religion and that’s God. Even if you don't believe in Him and have your own views of a spiritual life. If you practice this religion or that religion, that’s great for you. Just don’t talk down to someone for practicing something different. To me, there is one love and that’s without worrying what race people are. Love has no borders. Love is color blind. To me, I am as equal to you whether you are rich or poor. To me, a world sans judgment……………well that’s impossible. But it doesn’t hurt to dream. My name is Jessenia Lua, and I have judged in the past. Have you?